Self-love, Self-worth, Self-belief, Self-discipline, Self-esteem, Self-respect, Self-healing and so on.. There’s a reason why they all start with “Self”. No one else can find them for you. You yourself have to find them within You. Did you ever hear the saying “you cannot love and find love until you love yourself “? There’s so much wisdom in this saying… I really believe that people never find healthy love, respect, or worth until they learn to love and respect them Selves first. Would you agree with me on this?! 🤔 Through discovering this aspect of YOUR being, can come a complete transformation of YOUR life? I definitely think that. Some people are stuck in unhealthy relationships, some use alcohol and drugs to numb the pain of not having Self-Love, Self-Respect, and Self-Worth- it’s a vicious cycle really 🥴…

Loving yourself, believing in yourself and having that self-discipline is so hard, isn’t it? 😫 Especially after suffering a life changing event- I’m still working on it today… (bare in mind I suffered the brain stem stroke nearly 7 years ago now 🙄🙉). I have to relearn everything, especially relearn to love myself the way I AM and BELIEVE in myself, I’m using capital letters for the word “BELIEVE”, because I’m aware that’s my biggest weakness right now. They say that awareness is that first step needed, so I’m on the right path. It’s a tough challenge to believe in yourself- BUT hey! who doesn’t love a challenge?! 👊🏼💪🏼😅. Going from a healthy, independent girl to a dependent wheelchair user, that’s such a self-confidence knock 👊🏼🥺 BUT I think that if there’s so many healthy people that don’t have that self-confidence, self-love, self-belief, and so on, then it’s an issue for anyone really. Therefore any reader can somehow relate to this post 🤩

“You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are”

“You must be what it is that you are seeking – that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract”

👆🏼My favorite quotes by Wayne Dwyer (he was a smart guy!) 🥰 worth knowing of! (Check him out, I recommend it!).

If you don’t love your Self, it’s a thinking problem, a belief that you have accepted as true. It’s all in your mind. You are judging yourself, comparing yourself to others, or maybe you feel unlovable because of things that happened to you in your past and you feel like a victim of circumstances? Feeling sorry for yourself? Either way, it is a disconnection from the truth of who and what you really are. This is because the Ego-self is ignorant of the truth. Spiritual practices such as yoga, breath work, meditation, etc. can all help in overcoming these beliefs. You can forgive yourself and others to overcome anything that is keeping you from being happy. You can let go of being the judge and the victim. I know that spiritual tools, especially meditation and affirmations are very powerful. There’s absolutely nothing better to sharpen your self-discipline, self-love and self-belief. I recently completed a week long vegetable broth fast. WHY HAVE I DONE THAT? You may ask…Because I LOVE AND RESPECT MY BODY (giving it a break, and time to cleanse from time to time), because I BELIEVE & KNOW I CAN, but most importantly because MY mind is in control over my body, not the other way around 😍💪🏼! I recommend trying some type of fast, nothing will improve your self-discipline more than knowing the fridge is just there stuffed with foods you can reach out for at anytime. BUT 🛑✋🏼 you set yourself a goal and want to stick to it- Why again?! just because, that’s real strength and discipline 💪🏼🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻🧘🏻‍♂️ #MindAndBodyConnection

We are ALL the same, we are spiritual beings having (just) a brief human experience on this Earth. We’re here to transform, to experience Self-Realization, to learn to love ourselves, leave behind the negative thought processes and begin to vibrate in a positive energy, bring positivity into our lives and the lives of those around us 💜✨. We became so disconnected, and you should try doing everything to reconnect… A common theme throughout my blog 😊

⁉️ Did you know ⁉️

⭐️Some research states that it takes 7 positives to cancel out the effect of one negative statement 

⭐️Developmental psychology research states that up to 95% of our “emotional programming” is in place by the age of 8 years old 👧🏻👦🏻. So, from a very young age we form our beliefs about ourselves, people, our caregivers, the world around us (We’re simply wired for negativity 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️)

⭐️Self-LOVE is the most powerful form of love- it sets the very foundation for which every other aspect of your life is built upon. How you treat yourself with love and respect is a direct reflection of how others will treat you in life. You deserve to experience ALL of the good things life has to offer. Water yourself and balance yourself daily (with repeating affirmations- I suggest a few below 😉) and watch your life flourish 🌻. They usually suggest challenging yourself for 30 days before you can notice a difference. TRY!, because you deserve it, like in the L’Oréal ads (ladies) you’re simply “worth it” 💁🏻‍♀️😆

It’s only with significant events or therapeutic intervention that we can start to LET GO of these negative & very often FALSE beliefs. Sometimes we create these from the things we experience, or hear about ourselves. But many times we just may have concluded them from events that happened to us, mostly in our childhood. Perhaps others projected their insecurities/upbringing on us- that’s very common, and done unconsciously, without even realising it 🤷🏻‍♀️

The aim of this post is trying to help you notice these patterns in yourself, and offering you a powerful tool-  affirmations that you can repeat daily to break down the walls of self-limiting beliefs 👊🏼, reigniting that flame of self-love (that maybe you lost), or even building it from scratch 👷🏻‍♀️🔥🥰💓. As the mind CAN and DOES CHANGE in our lifetime, with listening and repeating affirmations you’re literally building new pathways in the brain 🧠 (neuroplasticity). Let’s start to break the negative cycle, not only helping yourself but others too! Being at ease with yourself will certainly translate onto others around you, without the need for any words- and let’s be honest there’s nothing more attractive than being at ease with yourself 😍😌

💞Some of my favourite affirmations💞

I deeply love and appreciate myself just as I AM

I trust MYSELF

I believe in MYSELF

MY SELF-BELIEF is increasing and I find the courage to be uniquely ME 

I AM beautiful and strong

I accept MYSELF

I AM enough…I AM always enough

I have enough

I do enough

I AM worthy of love and prosperity…I deserve all that is good

I AM truly a beautiful soul

I AM wise and humble

I radiate confidence, self-respect and inner harmony

I AM unique…WE ARE all unique…WE ARE all individuals…WE ALL have imperfections

I CAN have imperfections and still love myself

I AM filled with gratitude for who I AM

I LOVE and ACCEPT MYSELF for who I AM

I never compare myself to anyone

Life treats me well and I treat MYSELF well

I respect My body…I respect MY mind

I respect MYSELF therefore I ask others to respect me too

I WILL always take good care of MYSELF

I bring light to those around ME

I have so much to offer the world…I AM full of potential

I AM proud of MYSELF and what I’ve accomplished

I have the courage to voice MY own opinions and thoughts…MY voice is valuable and MY opinions matter 

I respect the difference of opinions…I also give equal value to MY own feelings and I ask of others to respect these

I cannot control other’s opinions and actions…I can only control how I choose to react

 I understand and pay attention to MY own emotions and thoughts

I AM never alone, as I AM loved and supported…even when it’s not immediately felt or seen

I LET GO of blaming others… I LET GO of anger towards others 

I accept an apology I may never receive

I free MYSELF from holding on to bitterness and/or resentment, knowing that negative emotions poison my mind, therefore I LET GO…I LET GO of any past hurt and I FORGIVE others to FREE MYSELF

I FREE MYSELF from any explicit or silent expectations from others

I AM free to decide…to design MY own life…I have courage to take any decisions that I may have previously delayed or avoided…to take responsibility to create the best life…to be the best person I CAN BE

I have all the resources I need to make the life that I want

I break down the walls 👊🏼 of artificial constraints 

I decide more actively who I want in MY life, and who I do not

MY time is valuable, and I choose who to give MY time to…MY time is a gift that I spend carefully

I choose who I share MY goals and dreams with

I BALANCE going for goals with time to rest and rejuvenation, however I spend MY energy…whether on goals or the PRESENT MOMENT

MY OPTIMISM increases and negative people in my life simply fade away, their control loosens, and their words fade away into the distance

I attract wonderful people and opportunities into MY life...I AM always mindful of who I spend MY time with

MY personal story is valuable and I choose who to share it with

I AM ready to release past pain…I AM letting go of present day doubts

I simply use MY past to learn more and make better choices for the future…I use MY past experience to understand MYSELF better 👇🏼

I use setbacks as an opportunity to learn…MY past does not dictate MY future

WE ARE ALL a mix of strengths and weaknesses… I learn to design MY life around MY strengths…I LET GO of perfection at everything… I simply aim to BE better 

I AM breaking out of old cycles…I AM raising MY awareness, as I learn more about MYSELF…I manage MY thoughts and actions more consciously

and my absolute favorite 🤩👇🏼

Whatever I AM working towards I KNOW I WILL see results in time… I AM PATIENT with myself… I find resilience to continue… I congratulate myself and stay FOCUSED on the next step. I know that positive change is one step at a time, one day at a time…I focus on each and every step… I know that great results come from QUIET change, small steps…

🦋 I refuse to give up 🦋

I think of it like this: if I give up then that’s it, there’s nothing, full stop. BUT if I refuse to give up, then there’s HOPE. I have a purpose, future, there’re opportunities, improvements can be made and so on. So why would you give up? Never give up!

I personally believe that it is very important that you become your own therapist! I believe that you can help yourself the most, as you know yourself best! Spiritual practices are therapeutic, and you know what is the best about them? They’re completely FREE! 🙌🏼😉